Desi Arnaz Jr. talks about his mother: Lucille Ball

An sort interview from Desi Arnaz Jr. about his relationship with his mother: 

“While I was growing up she tried to keep our lives simple in the midst of what was going on, tried to let us have a real life. I grew up at the studio behind the camera, climbing up ladders and running around the soundstage. But I understood right away about the difference between real life and television. I wasn't the one who was confused—other people were. They thought I was Little Ricky. But I knew Fred and Ethel didn't live next door—Jack Benny did. 

I just saw her as my mother. She wasn't really a disciplinarian or taskmaster. Since Dad was no longer there [after 20 years, Lucy and Desi divorced in 1960], she felt she had a responsibility to the show. She had a lot of old-fashioned values that she got from her mother. My parents always said there's a lot more to life than how much money you have or how much you impress people. 

During the days I was doing drugs, they tried to help me. My father had a drinking problem; my mother was a person just like anybody else. When I went through drug and alcohol recovery seven years ago, they went through it with me. Sometimes people in the public eye don't want to reveal anything going on inside them in front of even one other person, and it was extraordinary that they did it. It got better for us after that. We could talk to each other more easily. 

We were really very close in those later years,
we were able to say everything we needed to say to each other. 

All along she said, "What's important in this life is to be happy and to enjoy your life and have a good relationship with somebody." She wanted to have a happy life. She did the best she could.”

A Memo from Lucy (Lucille Ball)

(This memo was sent out by Desilu's Public Relations Department on September 12, 1966, the start of the 5th season of The Lucy Show. It was headlined, "Lucille Ball Writes About Television." This is probably the first time the text has been seen in more than 40 years! The logo above is the from the actual masthead of the stationary of Desilu Studios. Ms. Ball was then the president of the studio, having bought out from Desi (Arnaz) shares a few years before. She would sell Desilu to Paramount after The Lucy Show's sixth season. Enjoy!)

        What is television?
        Ask ten people that question and you'll get ten different answers.
        It has been defined as the most potent communications device ever invented by man.
        It's the biggest stage in the world.
        It's a supersonic salesman.
        It's a babysitter for a housewife in Dallas.
        It's the bright spot in the day for a lonely, elder citizen.
        It's a classroom for an eager student.
        It's a secret outlet for the super-sophisticate.
        Television is many things to many people. It depends on which side of the set you sit.
        It is a major industry in the nation's economy. Production companies, networks, sponsors, performers, advertising agencies, set manufacturers, retailers, and related services maintain a huge labor force all basically involved in the same objective — entertainment.
        Year after year the industry strives to bring you the best in programming, products, and services — then they turn the results of their combined efforts over to you — the viewer. And the future of each program depends on a quixotic combination embracing program quality, the ever-changing mood of the times, sponsor support, and the tastes and living habits of millions of viewers.
        To answer my own question, I'd say that television is people. The people who create, produce, and perform. The people who broadcast and sponsor. The people who watch and support. All are involved in a vast, complex relationship that keeps changing the face of television, constantly producing hits and misses and criticism — constructive and destructive — from within and without.
        But I'll tell you something. Television, as an infant and now a giant, has given us some great moments in entertainment. Some memorable firsts in visual journalism. We have seen stars born in our living rooms. We have been educated. We have watched history happen. And I know we have been brought closer together.
        I also know that I have learned many things about television and its people. From the days of I Love Lucy to The Lucy Show of today, I have learned about people's loyalty. To a performer, that's a real education. But I wear another hat these days, as president of Desilu Productions, so I have another responsibility, and one which I assume with pride.
        Today, I take an active part in the creative and production phases of our business, and when you realize the almost limitless possibilities that still exist on the television horizon, it's a real challenge. And I like challenges. 

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(This is a little part of two pages of notes Lucy had handwritten on her script for "Lucy Gets Her Diploma," a sixth-season episode of The Lucy Show that aired October 9, 1967. Daughter Lucie Arnaz had a part in this episode as a high-school student (and has some dialogue with her mother), as did an actor named Phil Vandervort. Lucie would date and eventually marry Vandervort, and this is where they met; they married on her birthday (July 17) in 1971, and divorced six years later. Also in this episode: longtime and beloved Lucy co-star Doris Singleton. The plot revolved around Lucy being forced to get her high school diploma when the bank policy is changed to require that all employees have one. Here are her notes, written in a large, very beautiful, curvy script:
        "I expected more comedy from me after I went to school, not just from the jibes of the kids — I think we'll throw away a good opportunity if you don't see me trying hard at something — somehow, I'm too goody-goody doing everything right. Too much preaching from the minute I get there — too soon for preaching. Gotta save it — goof a bit & then get in your sermons — I don't have to be teacher's pet from start to finish & that's why it ain't funny — shmaltzy yes, but not funny. Talk to you later." 

43 Lovely with some rare photos Arnaz family

Here are lovely photos from Lucy, Desi with their beautiful children Lucie and Desi jr. with quotes. I really love to watch those photo's... 

"The first time Lucy and Lucie played in the pool I built, I cried. It was an emotional moment, especially since Lucy and I have waited 10 years to have a child." -Desi

“Increasingly frustrated by her own childlessness, Lucille doted on the offspring of others. By this time, Barbara Bell, daughter of Harriet’s [the maid] friend Dot, had children of her own. Lucille met them in San Francisco, and as Barbara recalled, “She wanted to hurry up and have kids so bad. When she met my son she loved him so much she kept stuffing money in his pockets. He was five or six and she thought it a great game.” Her desire for motherhood was such that even DeDe suggested they adopt a child if they wanted one so badly, but Lucille would sob, “I want Desi’s baby.” 

- The Life of Lucille Ball by Kathleen Brady

What they were doing onstage, brought us I Love Lucy. What they were doing off the stage brought us… Lucie Arnaz.

“We had it all. Desi and I, we had it all…”

"It was an emotional moment to see Desi with the kids, all grown up, on television. I still remember the first time I held the babies in my arms, and how happy we all were." —Lucy

Keith Thibodeaux (Little Ricky) and Desi Jr were great friends, they played drums and grew up together. Desi and Lucy said: "It was like having 3 children instead of 2," 

You see much more of your children once they leave home.” (Lucy)

Lucille was so crazy about her children. Whenever she had time, she would just stare at the sleeping babies, and start weeping with motherly happiness. I think she felt terrible that she couldn't spend more time with them due to the demands of I Love Lucy. It broke her heart. —Cleo, Lucille's cousin  

Lucy often brought her children (Lucie and Desi Jr.) to the I Love Lucy set.

Lucie, Lucy and Desi jr, on the set of Here's Lucy

"I began feeling tired again. No energy. All tuckered out. I told Desi about it, and he grinned. ‘Lucy,’ he said, ‘maybe we’re going to have another baby’. Well, it was true. After waiting for so long for one, there were going to be two. A lot had been asked of us, but not nearly so much as was now being given." (Lucy)

Desi always enjoyed taking pictures of Lucille and their children.

vacation in Sun Valley

Winter holiday

(...) She would also force Gary to run home videos of her, Desi and the children. (...) - her brother, Fred ball

 source: golucilleball

"I promised (Desi’s mother, Dolores) to bring up any children we might have as Catholics." (Lucy)

Forever part 2

"Even after she'd married Gary, whenever she'd see me, she would always take me over to a corner and say, 'Have you heard from Desi lately?' She wanted to know how he was getting along. There was always that great, great love there."Jim Bacon, family friend

"Maybe I'm the romantic, but there was a great, great love there, there really was. Desi was very unhappy about the breakup, and I know she was too. I don't think either one of them ever got over it."William Asher, Lucy director